According to Robert and Jeanette Lauer in their book "Marriage and Family: A Quest for Intimacy", there are six different types of lovers.
The Erotic Lover focuses
on the physical, particularly the sexual, aspects of the relationship.
The Ludic Lover views
love as a pleasant pastime but not something in which to get deeply involved.
The Storgic Lover has
a quiet affection for one another and
their relationship develop slowly and tend to be stable.
The Manic Lover is
intensely preoccupied with the beloved, feels intense jealousy, and alternates
between ecstasy and despair in the relationship.
The Pragmatic Lover may
take careful stock of the other, consciously assessing the characteristics of
the other.
The Agapic Lover acts
of behalf of the well being of the other without demanding or perhaps even
expecting any benefits in return.
When it comes to marriage, there are two types of lovers which I believe would make for a good marriage: the Storgic lover and the Agapic lover.
The Storgic lover can be a benefit in marriage if this is how your relationship began, slowly and grew to be stable. Marriage is a life long (and in the LDS church, we believe it is for eternity), having a strong and stable relationship is essential.
Love is selfless. The Agapic lover thinks of their partner, not themselves. What better way to develop a good relationship with your spouse and then stabilize that relationship than to act selflessly based on their wellbeing.
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